Jozelle Wong Yu

“ I remember when Dan and I first started seeing Aya for private couples calls in July 2020. I remember being on the verge of utter hopelessness and fear about working through the conflicts in our relationship, because at that point, they felt clumped together as one massive, wildly tangled knot. The more Dan and I tried to work at the knot ourselves, the tighter the tangles became. After months of stagnation and unrest for us both, Dan reached out to Aya with an intention we shared for getting support that would lead to deep and true movement, healing, and a return to togetherness. 

So when we started working with Aya, one of the first things I noticed is that she slooooowwwwwed the conversation down. Each person would say a few bits at a time about what was alive for them, and Aya, with so much care and warmth, facilitated a process ensuring each person felt truly heard and understood. Aya also gave words to things I had trouble naming for myself, which turned out to be a huge relief to hear my internal experience named out loud and witnessed by her and Dan. Within Aya’s container of warmth, care, and highly-skilled facilitation, Dan and I worked at untangling the knot that was our relational conflict, uncovering the gems of our longings and deep love for one another. With each call, it became easier for me to see my partner’s innocence, love his needs, and collaborate on strategies that would care for us both. I also felt so satisfied in seeing Dan and I apply the skills we learned on our calls in our everyday interactions.