Lou Lou CNVC Trainer Candidate March, 2025

” This was my first time attending a course with Aya. I had already heard glowing praise from many friends who had studied with her before, and this became my own firsthand experience of her teaching style and classroom presence.

As I was supporting the course with a technical role—managing slide presentations, maintaining the online environment, and monitoring chat interactions—I wasn’t always able to absorb the course content as fully as I would have if I were a participant. Fortunately, I was able to review the recordings afterward. But what stood out even more than the content itself was Aya’s living demonstration of the spirit of NVC throughout the course. That, for me, was the most impressive and meaningful part of the learning experience.

1. Acceptance and Ease at Present:

At the beginning of the course, we encountered some technical issues with the slide presentation. Although I was using software I was familiar with, what appeared full-screen on my side still showed up as a smaller window for Aya and the participants, which affected the flow of teaching.

Aya expressed what she was seeing several times—simply describing the situation without assigning blame or pointing out what I had done “wrong.” What moved me deeply was how she remained calm and composed throughout, showing no frustration or anxiety. Instead, she naturally accepted the situation as it was. Her response reflected a deep trust in the process and the people involved, as well as a profound acceptance of imperfection.

After class, we debriefed as a team and found a solution: opening the slides directly from email and using full-screen mode. Aya also proactively provided a slide index before class to make transitions smoother. These adjustments improved the flow of the sessions and demonstrated her flexibility and spirit of collaboration when facing challenges.

2. Authenticity and presence: Live and Demonstrations of NVC:

Many participants in this course had prior experience with NVC, which led to deeper questions and frequent interactions. Within limited time, Aya had to find a balance between responding to individual needs and maintaining the overall class rhythm. She also made a conscious effort to create space for those who spoke less often.

This inevitably led to one participant, who had been actively asking questions, feeling overlooked and unacknowledged. Aya picked up on this and not only offered after-class strategies—like a one-on-one listening session—but also used this moment as a live example in class: how to rebuild trust through NVC when one has unintentionally impacted someone else.

Without deep NVC practice and a strong intention to connect, such moments could easily lead to defensiveness or misunderstanding. But under Aya’s guidance, the process unfolded with sincerity, equality, and constructive dialogue. It was more than a lesson—it was a living NVC, allowing participants to experience how trust can be repaired in real relationships.

3. Thoughtfully Prepared Content:

Aya’s slides were clear, well-structured, and content-rich. Each slide was designed to offer meaningful support to learners. This reflects not only her professionalism in course design, but also her strong sense of responsibility in sharing knowledge. Her preparation went far beyond explanation—she clearly aimed to offer maximum value within the limited time of each session.

4. Time Awareness and Respect for the Learner Experience:

Aya demonstrated excellent time management throughout the course. After each break, she was always the first to return, calmly turning on her video and waiting for others to rejoin. This reflected her respect for both time and the group’s rhythm.

Some participants also mentioned that when they logged into the session early, Aya was already there. This habit of arriving early showed her dedication and presence as a teacher—and gave learners a sense of her sincerity and care.

Conclusion:

Overall, Aya’s course was not only highly professional in content delivery, but also a powerful embodiment of NVC values and spirit. Her acceptance of change, genuine response to relational dynamics, thoughtful preparation, and respect for both time and participants created an environment where the course became more than just learning—it became a lived experience of NVC.

This kind of teaching doesn’t just help learners understand NVC theoretically—it allows them to feel how it works in real life. For anyone who wishes to go deeper in both learning and practicing NVC, Aya’s style offers truly transformative value. “